Dear Mr. Graves,
First things first: No, I actually didn’t forget the “honorable” part of your title – I omitted it. I did so because in denying an individual’s right to change his or her name in transgender cases and ONLY transgender cases, you’ve chosen to use the legal system to not only proliferate your blatant homophobia/transphobia, but to give rulings from the bench based on your own antiquated religious views. This is not only an egregious abuse of your power, but as the TLO research department has discovered, is a total dick move. Before I drag this thing off the rails, let’s give our readers some background on you.
As a Republican state rep for 24 years, you called yourself a “Constitutional Conservative”, but we all know what those code words mean now. They mean you legislate from an ancient, terrified place in your brain where you think Hell is real, and it’s hot, and it’s full of gay jazz musicians who smoke the reefer and can’t look at a teenage girl without going on a rapin’ spree. No big shock there. Another non-shock is that while in the state Legislature, you were one of the first to push for an amendment to the OK Constitution banning same-sex marriages, which was approved in 2004. Thanks for that, by the way.
An interesting tidbit I read was that in 2008 you griped about a proposal to keep judges from being members of groups that discriminate based on sexual orientation. From the News.Ok article:
In a letter, [Graves] accused an Oklahoma Bar Association committee that made the proposal of “promoting the agenda of homosexuals and lesbians at the expense of the constitutional freedoms of judges and the People they represent.
Yep. That seems about right so far. In the past year, you’ve denied two men the right to change their name based on transgender status, or prior to gender-reassignment surgery. Look, it kind of hurt my brain to type that last sentence too, but what can you do? It’s the world we live in now, and it’s certainly not your place to moralize from the bench when these people ARE NOT CRIMINALS. Five other judges in OK County were cited in the story as saying they regularly grant name changes in transgender cases, which only makes your holier-than-thou sanctimonious bullshit that much more obvious.
Here’s my bottom line: Religion has no place in a courtroom. The fact that you quoted Genesis (the “book”, not the band…because that might’ve been awesome) in your ruling makes me sick. I don’t care about your religion, and nobody suffering through being in your courtroom should have to either. This is just another example of the fact that in our country we almost need an entire generation of antiquated thinking to just hurry up and get Alzheimer’s and die off. At the very least, we need you all to forget how to form national policy.
Our names are important, sir; it’s a simple way for people to remember who we are. The changing of one’s name is not and will never be a big deal. You even went so far as to commission a study of DNA to see if these peoples’ genders were actually changing? Well, that’s just fucking stupid, sir. Of course DNA doesn’t change – and that’s not even your concern. You were never asked to change someone’s sex on their birth certificate or to call a man a woman, simply to let a man who identifies as a woman to be called “Angela” instead of “James”. JESUS CHRIST, CALL THE PRESIDENT!! You know there’s an American guy who changed his name to Sunshine Megatron, right? And another guy who now goes by the completely legal name of Radical Aided Super N*gger? I just don’t get it, and it worries me that a district judge is this concerned with a person’s name.
You say you denied the requests (one of which is already being appealed) because they were of a fraudulent nature, but what you didn’t define was your use of “fraudulent”. It was not a legal use – it was a religious one, as you followed that sentence in your ruling with this one:
’..And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth …’ The DNA code shows God meant for them to stay male and female.
I’m no 2nd year OU law student who thinks she’s goddamn Ally McBeal or anything, but that is one of the most ridiculous statements I’ve ever read from an elected official, let alone in a ruling by a sitting District judge. You know, I used to work with a guy named Stacy. He wasn’t the manliest man I’d ever met, but that was his “God-given” name. If you want, I can do a citizen’s arrest and get his male-DNA-with-a-girl’s-name-having ass down to your courtroom forthwith!!
In conclusion, you’re wrong, sir. You’re wrong about something that you don’t even get to be right about. Your opinion in these cases is less than moot. As a society we’ve gotten to the point where this kind of request shouldn’t even involve someone of your parochial, anti-everyone-but-old-white-guys agenda. If I want to change my name to “Horse Cock Inyourass” I should just be able to text “Horse Cock Inyourass” to 88845 and click “Yes, I’m an idiot…but it’s MY problem, not yours.” Get the fuck out of people’s lives and do something we actually need, like feeding a homeless guy or taking in a stray dog.
Thank you for your time,
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