Jen Kirkman was just finishing up a taping for the Comedy Central show @Midnight, when I had the chance to talk to her about her OKC show this Wednesday. It’s the first time I’ve spoken with Jenn since she blocked me on Twitter a few years ago after a little spat.
Back in 2012, Jen boycotted Twitter because of all the sexism, misogyny and basically all of the assholes with access to the internet. After her hiatus, I decided to chime in and be a misogynistic asshole to her by tweeting:
Has @JenKirkman rid the internet of misogyny and assholes yet?
This lead to….
My tweet was a shitty, tongue-in-cheek joke, which doesn’t translate well to social media, but Jen was right. Female comedians have to deal with a whole different level of shit than male comics. Never during my 10 years of comedy has an audience member yelled out for me to take off my shirt and flex, ask for my phone number, or otherwise reduced me to an object. Maybe it will happen someday, but you never know. But that is the type of thing female comics have to deal with on the regular.
Jen’s crusade was to try to educate people about the type of things female comedians, and women in general, have to deal with. I was an asshole for trying to make light of it, but that didn’t stop things from getting heated for a few minutes.
All of Jen’s responses were warranted. But then the White Knights chimed in… so many White Knights. But this was my favorite:
Pitpat was right. There is a lot wrong with the world we live in, and I wasn’t making anything better by poking fun at Jen.
It should be noted that there isn’t a Presidential election in 2018, so I’m not sure what Romney will be running for, but apparently this guy is on board! Either that, or he thinks I’m some type of conservative… regardless, he should know when Presidential elections are held. Also, as you can tell by the star in the upper-right corner, I favorited his tweet. 🙂
And since I was being attacked, I responded:
The bottom line is, I did not mean for my joke to be taken the way it was. I regret tweeting it. Jen and I have since talked and I’ve apologized. She was super cool and understanding about everything.
Here’s a snippet from the chat we had. Come see her tomorrow night because she is amazing and hilarious. Visit OKCcomedy.com to get tickets.
Have you ever been to Oklahoma?
Yes, but this will be the first time I’ve performed there.
Do you have any preconceived notions about the people of Oklahoma?
Haha, no I don’t. I’m usually too wrapped up in my own head and worrying about upcoming shows. If I could just do a show every night and write books, that would be my dream. As long as the people who show up are in a good mood and ready to laugh, it’ll be great.
Your book, “I Can Barely Take Care of Myself,” was a New York Times bestseller. Do you have plans for more books in the future?
Actually, yes. I’m finishing one right now. It’s a collection of essays about marriage, divorce, friendship, turning 40, dating after a divorce… I think it should be out by early next year.
I’m excited that you’re coming to OKC. You are super busy with your book, I read that you are about to film a special for Comedy Central and of course your podcast and Drunk History…
Yeah, I’m excited too! I think it will be a lot of fun!
Jen was awesome. The interview was a lot longer, but most of it was about stand-up comedy and you don’t visit TLO to read about comedians talking shop.
Anyway, I’m glad she forgave me for being an asshole. Come see what all the fuss is about Wednesday. It will be OKCcomedy’s last show at the Contemporary Arts Center before we move ACM in Bricktown!
p.s. – Jen’s podcast is called “I Seem Fun,” and can be found on her website JenKirkman.com. She is going to be featured on Drunk History in season 3, which is fantastic.